In the evolving landscape of Family Law in Australia, a relatively new role is gaining recognition — the parenting coordinator. Designed to reduce conflict and ensure parenting arrangements are followed effectively, parenting coordinators are increasingly being used in high-conflict post-separation situations. But are they worth it?

Let’s explore what parenting coordinators do, how they align with the Family Law Act 1975, and whether engaging one can benefit your parenting journey.

What is a Parenting Coordinator?

A parenting coordinator is a neutral third party who helps separated or divorced parents implement and comply with parenting plans or court orders. Unlike mediators or legal advisors, parenting coordinators work after agreements are made, focusing on day-to-day disputes and enhancing communication between co-parents.

They are often used in high-conflict parenting situations where poor communication, breaches of orders, or ongoing disagreements impact children’s wellbeing. Parenting coordinators aim to:

• Reduce repeated court appearances
• Ensure compliance with Family Court parenting orders
• Provide a child-focused framework for resolution
• Encourage co-operative co-parenting

Is Parenting Coordination Recognised Under Australian Law?

While parenting coordination is more established in countries like the United States and Canada, it is not formally legislated under the Family Law Act 1975. However, Australian courts can still appoint a parenting coordinator under section 65L of the Act, which allows the court to make orders relating to parenting arrangements and involve independent professionals if it's in the child’s best interests.

Under section 60CA of the Act, the child’s best interests remain the primary consideration in any parenting dispute. A parenting coordinator can be a helpful tool in ensuring these interests are upheld when conflict arises over practical parenting matters.

When Should You Consider a Parenting Coordinator?

Parenting coordinators are particularly useful in high-conflict scenarios where:

• One or both parties repeatedly breach parenting orders
• There is poor or hostile communication
• The children are negatively impacted by ongoing conflict
• Parenting decisions are constantly disputed
• There is a history of litigation or enforcement issues

The coordinator acts as a buffer and communication channel, helping parents make decisions about schedules, school activities, travel, or health care without returning to court each time.

What Do Parenting Coordinators Actually Do?

A parenting coordinator's role includes:

• Monitoring compliance with parenting orders
• Educating parents on co-parenting strategies
• Clarifying minor disputes and misunderstandings
• Helping interpret ambiguous language in parenting plans
• Encouraging parents to put children’s needs first
• Documenting interactions and reporting back to the court (if ordered)

Importantly, they do not make legally binding decisions or change court orders. Their role is facilitative, not judicial.

What Are the Benefits of Parenting Coordination?

Reduces Court Time and Costs Using a parenting coordinator can significantly reduce the need to go back to court. This not only saves time but also lowers emotional and financial stress for all parties involved.

Promotes Child-Centred Co-Parenting Coordinators help re-centre the focus on the child’s welfare rather than ongoing adult conflict. This supports long-term positive outcomes for the child.

Improves Communication By providing a neutral space for resolving disputes, parenting coordinators promote respectful and structured communication between parents.

Supports Mental Health and Stability The reduced stress on children and parents helps promote emotional and psychological wellbeing. Children thrive in stable, low-conflict environments, even post-separation.

Are There Any Drawbacks?

Parenting coordination may not be suitable for every situation. Some potential concerns include:

• Cost: The service may not be affordable for all families unless subsidised or funded. (Ask your lawyer about support like JustFund.)
• Voluntary Participation: If not court-ordered, both parties must agree — which can be difficult in high-conflict cases.
• Not Legally Binding: A parenting coordinator can only encourage compliance, not enforce it.
• Not Appropriate in All Family Violence Cases: In cases involving abuse or coercive control, power imbalances must be carefully assessed before engaging a coordinator.

Parenting Coordination vs. Family Dispute Resolution

Unlike Family Dispute Resolution (FDR), which aims to reach an agreement before court proceedings, parenting coordination works after orders or plans are made. It fills the gap where ongoing conflict continues despite legal structures.

For more on Family Dispute Resolution, visit the Attorney-General’s Department or FRSA.

The Bottom Line: Are Parenting Coordinators Worth It?

For many families, particularly those caught in repeated disputes, parenting coordinators offer real value. They provide a practical, child-focused way to reduce tension, ensure compliance, and support a healthier co-parenting environment.

While not a legal fix-all, they can be a worthwhile addition to your Family Law toolkit — especially if returning to court repeatedly is draining your time, energy, and finances.

If you're struggling with post-separation parenting conflict, a parenting coordinator may be part of the solution.

At New South Lawyers, our experienced Family Law team can help you understand whether parenting coordination is suitable in your case — and how to access it.

Contact New South Lawyers today. Let us help you move forward, prioritise your child’s needs, and avoid further court battles.